Are You Still Single But Why?

Still Single
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Ahhh.. What happened to those old-school relationships where people say what they mean and mean what they say?

This cool day relationship- full of shaded areas, mysterious status updates, and non-committal communication. Yes, you read right.

It looks like finding meaningful relationships is easy for some and difficult for others.

Are Few People Just Lucky?

Seems it come down to being in the right place at the right time?

BREAKING NEWS: THE PROBLEM IS YOU.

Don’t be shocked, it’s the fact. There’s more to it than “he’s not emotionally available,” or “she’s a b***h.” How we view romantic love is based on how we grew up.

Every family and society have its own norms around love and marriage. Those beliefs were designed ages ago, passed down from each generation, and reinforced in you to become your reality.

Then, you simply attracted & picked up people and situations that mirrored that reality back to you.

Let me give you an example:

“Sana comes from a culture where a woman’s life purpose is to get married. Her hobbies, school, and career are chosen to attract a mate. It reinforces the idea that a partner is what gives her life meaning.”

Clearly, that is messed up!

Still, it has tainted the way She has viewed love and the men she has chosen to date.

So, back to the topic at hand. In order to understand your secret feelings around love, you must become conscious of what limiting beliefs you’ve inherited from them. The following questions will help you to learn more about your relationship patterns, self-esteem, and beliefs about love.

You can only change your reality when you accept that it’s not based in reality.

  1. What was your family’s belief around love & marriage?
  2. How was love expressed in your family?
  3. Were your parents divorced?
  4. Who had the “power” in your family? What does that mean to you?
  5. How did your parents interact with each other?
  6. What are the similarities and differences between you and your parents?
  7. What did verbal and physical affection look like in your family? How do you express love?
  8. Were you given the ability to express yourself at home?

Now I know you just scanned those, but if you really want to be your best self in a healthy relationship, you need to dig deeper. Go back in time and feel it. Hit your journal and daydream about the kind of love you want and the type of person you want to be in that relationship. That does not mean you list all the ways your partner should change. This is about you!

Then, sit in that space. In order to attract the love you seek, you must be able to visualize it as a possible reality. It all comes down to deciding what you want to create in your life and making decisions with that goal in mind.

You are worth it. You deserve it. It’s your job to create it.

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